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Female Therapist or Male Therapist?
When people are looking for a psychotherapist, they often wonder whether to choose a male therapist or a female therapist. For some people, choosing a therapist of the same sex seems the obvious thing for them to do. Others may … Continue reading
Expect the unexpected: Living with alcoholics and dysfunctional families
Kids in dysfunctional families learn a lot of lessons: don’t tell; don’t have friends over; keep a close watch for signs of an explosion; try not to be noticed; be ready to fix everything. Life is chaotic, unpredictable, and violent. Maybe you always wondered why you are so hard on yourself, or why your relationships are so difficult, and never connected those things with growing up in an alcoholic household. Deep wounds need to be cleaned and healed, but healing and recovery is certainly possible. Many people need psychotherapy. Many people find comfort and help from ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) groups, Al-Anon (Families with alcoholics) groups, and CODA (Codependents Anonymous) groups. Continue reading
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Trauma and dissociation
Dissociation is not just related to the external world, it is also fundamentally a disconnection from oneself. It is an important task of psychotherapy to help the traumatized individual integrate these disconnected aspects of self. Addressing what may have felt unbearable can be painful, and the work must not push too hard or the person is at risk of being retraumatized or finding themselves stuck, once again, in an overwhelming and intolerable place. Continue reading
Codependency: Being dependent on others’ dependency
There may not be a simple test, or a clear marker, but if you consistently put someone else’s needs first, to the detriment of your own, you may be codependent. What is the boundary around codependency and how do you work through it? Continue reading
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Trauma and memory
For people who have experienced a trauma, this issue of memory — and trusting memory — is particular difficult, and carries an incredible weight and importance. When a traumatic event happens, the experience can be dissociated. Owning these memories is very difficult, and painful. When the events were happening in the past, people may have told you that they were not happening. Because the very nature of dissociation makes the memories feel unreal to you, it may be easy for you to doubt yourself, and wonder if you made them up. Continue reading